If you’re researching how to be the best groom ever, you’re in the right place.
Historically, grooms have had a bad rep. There’s a stereotypical image of a bride, frantically trying to plan her wedding, while the groom gets to sit back and show up. For a lot of couples, this is an antiquated image. These days, grooms are more involved than ever. And the best grooms know how to be decisive, supportive, and present.
By knowing how you can help, it’s not hard to be an awesome groom. Really. All it takes is a little adaptability, and realizing the kind of help you need to give at certain times. For example, sometimes you just need to show up and help make a choice. Other times, you’ll need to take on a task and avoid procrastination on it. And still, sometimes your partner will just need you to listen.
I know this may seem complicated, but I’ll walk you through it!
How To Be The Best Groom Ever!
This post is going to detail how you can be the best groom ever, so you and your fiancé can have the best day ever. It will walk you through what’s important, specific events to prioritize, and tips on how to respond to certain situations. Of course, not every groom needs to hear these things. And, not every wedding has a groom. However, if you are doing your research, and want to be the best groom, you’re in the right place, if only to know you’re on the right track.
Let’s get into it!
THE BEST GROOM EVER HELPS WITH WEDDING PLANNING
This seems like a no-brainer, but it’s important to note.
If you are a groom, and you have literally no idea what’s going to happen on your wedding day, you are probably not helping that much. And if you’d like to be the best groom ever, this is not the way to go. The way to help, and have your own voice heard about your wedding, is to talk about what you’d like to have there. Tell your partner your priorities and what you don’t care about. It’s your wedding, too, so you should be involved.
Beyond sharing what you’d like to see at your wedding, it’s important to help execute that vision. Volunteering to take on tasks is a huge deal and will be appreciated by your partner, as long as you don’t procrastinate. Things like booking entertainment, determining the transportation plan, or making an appointment for your own clothing rentals can be a big load off your partner’s shoulders.
THE BEST GROOM EVER SHOULD BE THERE FOR MAJOR PRE-WEDDING EVENTS
Again, this may seem like it’s common sense, but some people like to have a tangible list of what they need to do.
If you’re getting married, there are just some events that cannot happen without you. Yes, if you are getting married to a woman, you don’t need to be there when she tries on dresses, or goes to her bachelorette party. But, there are times where the event literally needs you.
A comprehensive list of those events is below:
- Engagement photo shoot
- Engagement party
- Deciding on your wedding party
- Picking a venue
- Deciding on a date
- Setting a budget
- Writing your wedding vows
- Deciding where to go for your honeymoon, and booking travel
- Creating a guest list
- Creating a wedding registry
OTHER QUALITIES FOR THE BEST GROOM EVER
Alright, so you’re helping with wedding planning. You’ve cleared your calendar so you can help make major decisions and be there for the big pre-wedding events. What other tips should you know?
Be Present When You’re Needed
Just because you’re physically in a location does not mean you’re adding to the experience for the people around you. If you’re touring venues, take an interest in them. Ask questions. Look at any paperwork that you’re given.
Be Supportive If Your Partner Is Stressed Out
As I mentioned before, there may be times where you’ll need to modify your reaction to support your partner as you both plan your wedding. Sometimes you’ll need to take on a task yourself. Other times, you’ll need to help make a decision. And most of the time, you’ll just need to listen.
Part of supporting your partner is also helping them take care of themselves during difficult times. So, be there for your fiancé and make sure they are taking time to relax, enjoy themselves, and get organized. This will be a great basis for a happy marriage later on, as I wrote about in 10 Tips For A Happy & Healthy Marriage.
Follow Through With What Is Asked Of You
Nothing is more frustrating than if you have to constantly follow up to make sure someone else took care of something. So, if you’re getting married (and this goes for brides, too!), if you’ve got something on your task list, just take care of it. Allow you and your partner to both move on from it and cross it off the list.
Be Responsible For Your Family
Look, weddings can cause a lot of drama. If the drama involves the people on your side of the family, it’s your responsibility to handle it. This could mean having an uncomfortable conversation, or setting steep boundaries. It could be as simple as explaining to someone that certain things will not go their way. No matter what the drama is, it’s essential that you step in to take care of it, so your partner doesn’t have to.
Take The Lead To Execute Your Own Priorities
What do I mean by this? Well, if you want something at your wedding, take the lead to make sure it gets done. For example, my fiancé really wanted us to enter our reception with a specific song. So, he took the lead in downloading that song and giving it to our DJ. Don’t be the guy who requests a specific song, and then make your partner make it happen.
HOW TO BE THE BEST GROOM EVER, EVEN IF YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T NEED YOUR HELP
Sometimes one person takes the lead with wedding planning, and the other person really isn’t needed that much. And they are both okay with this situation.
However, there are ways to be the best groom ever, even if your partner is leaving you out of the planning process. For example, you can take the following actions:
- Complement your partner on their efforts
- Appreciate that you can take a backseat to focus on other hobbies or tasks
- Watch for signs that your partner is stressed
- Find ways to be romantic
- Thank your partner
All of these simple actions will make your partner feel good, and happy they are marrying you.
HOW TO BE THE BEST GROOM EVER AT YOUR WEDDING
The whole purpose of being the best groom ever means that the penultimate experience lands on your wedding day. And there are many ways to make sure it’s the best day ever, for everyone involved.
Be Sweet
Weddings can be hectic, but they can also be very romantic. If you’d like to show some love to your partner before the wedding, plan on writing them a card. Or, send them flowers. Even a sweet text can brighten their experience. As long as you’re thoughtful and creative, it will be impressive.
Along these same lines is being a good sport. There may be wedding related traditions that you’re not into. Perhaps you hate having your photo taken. Or, you’re not into dancing. Just suck it up for a few hours.
Show Thanks To Your Wedding Party and Family
Your wedding is a great opportunity to thank your family and friends for their support over the years. For example, you may want to plan on giving your groomsmen gifts, as detailed in this post on Wedding Thank You Gifts. And, make sure that there are proper refreshments for everyone if there is downtime before the wedding.
You may want to plan on giving your parents a hand written card, or taking a moment to have a meaningful conversation with your in-laws. You can also show your appreciation if you give a thank you speech at your wedding.
Put Effort Into Your Personal Wedding Vows
Wedding vows are a super special and poignant part of any wedding.
If you and your partner are writing your own vows, it’s important that you spend a little effort on it. If you’re stuck, ask your partner what they are writing. Or, use this free guide to help you get started. As long as your vows come from the heart, they will be incredible. If you need more resource, this post and this post are all about writing your own wedding vows.
Don’t Get Too Drunk
Look, maybe you don’t even drink. Or maybe you just drink a little. But I’ll still mention it. If you like to party, don’t go too nuts at your wedding. It’s not a good look for brides, and it’s really not a good look for grooms. Just keep yourself under control for one important evening.
HOW TO BE THE BEST GROOM EVER AFTER THE WEDDING
Oh, did you think that your efforts were complete when the wedding ended? Think again!
There are definitely things to take care of after the wedding. Here are some examples:
- Help write thank you cards
- Look up how your partner can change their name
- Help pack up everything and put it away
- Be excited about your honeymoon, and look for restaurants, events, and other ways to make it special
- Work on your marriage, cherish your partner, plan date nights, and make your new spouse a priority
CLOSING THOUGHTS
Wow, that was a lot of tips. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you’re already an awesome groom. Perhaps the best groom ever. But, it never hurts to make sure, right? Just be there for your partner, do what’s asked of you, remain proactive, and have a fantastic wedding day. You’ve got this!
More From Hummingbird Wedding Advice:
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Nine Last Minute Wedding Tasks
9 Financial Conversations You Should Have With Your Partner
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